tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5826988470406323259.post6254995784919450625..comments2024-02-25T15:54:46.733-08:00Comments on Spring Sight: When Saying Yes Means Saying NoLinda Perkinshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09905662146166071518noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5826988470406323259.post-13116267905581297372016-09-01T14:34:43.761-07:002016-09-01T14:34:43.761-07:00Thanks, Dawn! I wish I had thought about giving my...Thanks, Dawn! I wish I had thought about giving myself a way out when I was young and single. That's a good safety rule in dating too. Interestingly, the Bible says that when we are faced with temptation, God will always provide a way out. So, hey, even He knows we can't always handle what we want or think we can handle! :-) Have a blessed day!Linda Perkinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09905662146166071518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5826988470406323259.post-60940031514885832342016-09-01T13:54:56.950-07:002016-09-01T13:54:56.950-07:00There's a lot of wisdom in your words. I don&...There's a lot of wisdom in your words. I don't have a chronic illness but I appreciated reading this because of the greater understanding it has given me for people who do. I like the advice of always giving yourself a way out. I can use that. Thank you for linking with Grace and Truth last week. dawnhttp://www.dawnklinge.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5826988470406323259.post-28522065107643574342016-08-31T10:26:00.018-07:002016-08-31T10:26:00.018-07:00You are right, Lyli! I have heard the term "r...You are right, Lyli! I have heard the term "recovering people pleaser" before and I could definitely relate to it. It's so hard when you feel you may have to let others down, and yet, as I learned during this particular episode, when we say no, sometimes that actually enables us to give our best yes! Even though I had to say no to a tiny piece of the trip, I'm looking forward to the retreat itself. Knock on wood, it will hopefully go well! Thanks so much for stopping by!Linda Perkinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09905662146166071518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5826988470406323259.post-69755675859100063012016-08-31T09:48:40.791-07:002016-08-31T09:48:40.791-07:00Linda, thank you for sharing your wisdom gained th...Linda, thank you for sharing your wisdom gained through walking this difficult road. I pray that you have a wonderful time at the retreat with no episodes. -- Learning what our limitations are is part of life, and even when you don't have a chronic illness, we often make poor decisions to "please others" that are harmful to our emotional, mental, and physical well being. -- I am learning that no is not a bad word, and it's liberating. <br /><br />Blessings to you! Lyli @3dlessons4life.comhttp://3dlessons4life.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5826988470406323259.post-83884656966797767272016-08-31T07:37:02.416-07:002016-08-31T07:37:02.416-07:00Well, hi Rachel! In addition to being in some of t...Well, hi Rachel! In addition to being in some of the same link-ups, I know you from Twitter! I loved your post this week. It hit SO close to home! While I may not have a dried flower in my purse, there are too many times when my daughter says "remember when I told you about..." and I realize I was only half paying attention, while my mind was off in my to-do list. Yes, taking time for ourselves and for our family members is so important. We just can't do everything. I like your timer idea. What a great way to stay completely "present" in the moment, while still accomplishing a lot. I'm going to try that! Have a blessed day, Rachel.Linda Perkinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09905662146166071518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5826988470406323259.post-81575606676943410652016-08-31T07:28:45.789-07:002016-08-31T07:28:45.789-07:00Hi Meg, I'm so glad you found me on Moments of...Hi Meg, I'm so glad you found me on Moments of Hope! Yes, this is always a place you can share your heart - whether it is your struggles or your joy! I completely understand how you feel about your commitments at home and church. I wrestle with the same tendency to over-commit, whether it's about trying to help others or just wanting to make the most of every opportunity to enjoy life! There is a Bible study at church I want to attend, and yet, my question is the same as yours: Do I really have the time?? I think our best answers come through prayer. God knows our needs and our desires, and only He knows how to balance the two. Wise counsel is also helpful, whether it is from your husband or a friend. Sometimes others can see what we don't (like when we are taking on too much). I will keep you in my prayers for you to make a wise decision! God bless.Linda Perkinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09905662146166071518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5826988470406323259.post-80213836353964763722016-08-31T06:37:17.504-07:002016-08-31T06:37:17.504-07:00I have been learning this myself... putting health...I have been learning this myself... putting healthy limits on my schedule, commitments and time. Going to bed at a decent time, exercising, drinking more water, eating healthy, etc. are all good things. I'm learning that time... and a good use of the time... is also so important in accomplishing our goals and what I want/need accomplished in my day. Setting timers for certain tasks keeps me focused. Scheduling a menu with the weeks appointments and activities in mind helps the family run more smoothly. Thanks for these reminders and encouraging words! (Your neighbor at #TellHisStory)Rachel Quigleyhttp://trippingovertypeset.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5826988470406323259.post-84360274299010790672016-08-30T12:14:02.891-07:002016-08-30T12:14:02.891-07:00My husband is a disabled vet and his knee pain doe...My husband is a disabled vet and his knee pain doesn't allow him to walk for long periods of time. We had to change our shopping and outing trips around to make sure he can still enjoy life without everything being a burden. Also, I home school our 3 kids and he isn't home much as he drives a truck so I know my limits very well. Last year I took on too much at church and had a breakdown almost and had to back out of everything because I couldn't discern what God wanted me to do. We were just going through a really hard time on top of everything else and I truly believe God worked it out for our good anyways. I have to learn that I can't do it all, though I want to help everyone. Knowing all this, I ask for prayer because another situation has arised and I need wisdom and discernment to know what to do. It is regarding another opportunity at church and I am asking God to show me if I should actually say yes to this one or keep everything at the pace it is for now, which I know I can handle. It a is big deal because I tend to get anxiety when overwhelmed. The kind where you get hot and almost pass out! I also don't want to go into something not being able to give my best. Thanks for allowing us to share here, friend, and it is my first time visiting too! Stopping by from Moment of Hope. :)Meg Weyerbacherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07138890324047342747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5826988470406323259.post-71857539458682038772016-08-29T07:57:39.330-07:002016-08-29T07:57:39.330-07:00There you go! Mandatory Rest Periods - I love it! ...There you go! Mandatory Rest Periods - I love it! I never thought about renaming something so that others would really understand that our self-care isn't optional. Perhaps I'll rename my bubble baths "mandatory soaks," LOL. That's truly about right! Thanks for sharing, Lene!Linda Perkinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09905662146166071518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5826988470406323259.post-7969413222029389262016-08-29T07:50:52.199-07:002016-08-29T07:50:52.199-07:00For years now, I’ve needed a nap in the afternoon ...For years now, I’ve needed a nap in the afternoon in order to not be a blithering idiot with the pain by the time I go to bed. I got really tired of people commenting about how nice it must be to nap – this isn’t an indulgence, it’s a necessity. So instead of calling them naps, I now call them Mandatory Rest Periods. Honesty about my needs, both with myself and others, has been very liberating.Lene Andersenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11223128667829847717noreply@blogger.com