To Fight or Surrender? Winning the Battle of Fatigue

This is the second of a week-long series of posts related specifically to life with rheumatoid arthritis, as a part of #RABlog Week. If you have RA and are new to this site, please know that it is spiritually oriented, written from a Christian perspective, and here for your encouragement.  If you do not have RA, please keep reading to learn more about this disease or check out my other posts. You can also follow me on Facebook or Twitter.

“But those who wait on the LORD Shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint.” – Isaiah 40:31 (NKJV)

“I’m so sorry. I just don’t think I can manage it.”

Every time I heard those words coming out of my mouth, I felt guiltier and guiltier.

Ben and I had only been married a short time and we were looking forward to a lifetime of outdoor activities, which we had enjoyed throughout our dating relationship. But more and more, I felt too exhausted to even make it through an ordinary day, much less a hike through the woods or a kayaking outing. It just wasn’t happening.

Morning after morning, I dragged myself out of bed, feeling like I had been run over by a mac truck. I ached everywhere, my hands and feet swollen with inflammation, and I would smile dimly at my beaux, as if in another world. I desperately wanted to go back to bed, but didn’t want to disappoint. As I sat on the couch, fingers slowly unfreezing with the warmth of the cup of coffee in my hands, I pondered all that was on my to-do-list. Would I…could I…make it to lunch without a nap? Could I muster up the energy to make the bed or do the dishes? I really wasn’t sure. Day after day, the answer was the same. The fatigue was too much. I came up short every time.

As bad as it was, the physical fatigue was not the most crippling. No, it was the mental and emotional fatigue – the feeling of just being defeated by it all. I was weary of the fight, depressed at the disparity between who I was just a few months beforehand and who I was today, and fearful of a future that seemed so much less than I had hoped for. And for everything I could no longer do – or at least do with any consistency – I felt less and less attractive to my husband. Despite his assurances to the contrary, all I could think about was how much I must be letting him down.

It took almost a year of this type of debilitating fatigue, combined with a rough surgery recovery, before I surrendered to the idea of taking a DMARD (disease-modifying anti-rheumatic drug) for my RA. Since my father had passed away from cancer just a month before my diagnosis, and he had suffered for several years with the side effects of chemo, I was terrified of the pharmaceutical treatment options that lay before me. I was never so grateful as when my rheumatologist told me I could begin with Plaquenil, the drug with the least amount of side effects, and even more so when it worked to ease my symptoms.

I would love to say that modern medicine was all I needed to beat my RA-related fatigue, but that would not be true. I've needed more, in order to get back on my feet and attain the level of energy I had before. The drugs may be slowly restoring my ability to move my body; but I know that only with God will I have the ability to truly soar.

I have learned that the true enemy in the fight against fatigue is that voice in my head that says “You can’t do this.” Fortunately, I have God’s Word that says in Philippians 4:13 that I can. It is knowing I can do all things through Him that gives me the strength I need to carry on. And it is by truly accepting His unconditional love, receiving it and focusing on it each day, that I overcome the adversary that says “With RA, you’re not enough.” Because I know that with God, I am. My strategy for winning the battle of fatigue? Fighting the enemy within, while surrendering to my ultimate Friend. 

My war with fatigue is not over. It is a day-to-day struggle, taken as it comes. But at least now I have a plan. I will go to the One who says, “Come to me, you who are burdened, and I will give you rest.” And with the help of little naps, a little love and a little laughter, I will be patient with myself and my body too, remembering I need only do what I can do. I am all I need to be today.

How do you address fatigue in your life? Do you let physical fatigue beat you down emotionally, or do you allow negative thinking to zap you of the energy you need to get through the day? Where do you go to lift your spirits and be revived?

To Fight or Surrender? Winning the Battle of Fatigue originally appeared on Spring Sight blog, by Linda W. Perkins. It is one of a series of posts specifically about Rheumatoid Arthritis, as part of #RABlog Week. 

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Learning to Love My Mornings

“The Lord’s love never ends. His mercies never stop. They are new every morning.” – Lamentations 3:22-23 (ICB)

Note to reader: This is the first of a week-long series of posts related specifically to life with rheumatoid arthritis, as Spring Sight is one of the blogs featured in #RABlog Week. If you have RA and are new to this site, please know that it is spiritually oriented, from a Christian perspective, and here for your encouragement. If you do not have RA, this is a great week to learn more about what it’s like to live with the disease. I hope you will keep coming back! You can also follow me on Facebook or Twitter.

The truth is, I never was a morning person. I found out the hard way, when I went to college. Before that, I was your average kid, forced into a schedule engineered by parents and school administrators. Of course I didn’t stay up late! My parents were strict about bedtimes – the earlier, the better. And when the school bus picks you up at 7 a.m., well, you don’t have much choice. You get up!

So when I got the dorm application that asked “Are you a morning or a night person?” I had to think hard. Hmmm … I knew there were a number of times I would beg my parents to let me go to bed and get up early to finish the dishes, do homework, or whatever else I was too tired to do after a long day. So I assumed I was a morning person.

Unfortunately, for me and my first college roommate, I assumed wrong. Put a real morning person with a natural night owl in one teeny tiny dorm room, and you learn quickly why universities ask that question.

“Turn off that d--- music!” my roommate would growl, each time I dared to turn on the stereo past 9 p.m. I thought it was playing very softly, but nothing was soft enough for her.

The tables would turn the next morning. I glared at the woman whose alarm clock had interrupted my slumber at 5 a.m. and had already turned on the TV, watching some talk show as she sipped Dr. Pepper, her morning beverage of choice. How the heck can anyone be fully awake at this time of day?? I thought.

Little did I know that many years later, I would find out exactly what it was to be fully awake at 5 a.m. It wasn’t out of desire, however. It was due to RA.

The very first thing I ever knew about rheumatoid arthritis was its effect on mornings. I had begun to see less and less of a good friend, and had inquired of her husband as to where she had been. “Oh, didn’t you know? She was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis. It’s been really hard on her. It can take her two hours just to get out of bed in the morning,” he said.

Wow. Two hours to get out of bed? I couldn’t imagine. While not a super-late night owl, due to the reality of having a job and a child to send to school, I was the kind of woman who would do whatever it took to not get up any earlier than necessary. I always asked the hairdresser for the “minimal maintenance” style and had learned to put on makeup at the speed of light. Within just 30 minutes, I could be up, showered and dressed, with a quick bowl of cereal in my stomach and a cup of coffee in my to-go mug, ready to head out the door. The thought of having to get up two hours earlier to get ready was just unfathomable to me. Way, way too painful to think about. My poor friend.

I had no idea that I too would be learning to adjust to an “extended morning routine” due to my own diagnosis of RA, just a few years later.

When I first developed rheumatoid arthritis, I didn’t choose to wake up at 4 or 5 a.m. The disease itself woke me up. A deeply intense, dull ache permeated my hands each time I tried to open or close them, whether as an involuntary response to a dream or as I tried to pull up my bed covers. I didn’t know what was wrong with them. They just hurt. Bad. I couldn’t go back to sleep. Not like this. But when I got up, my feet hurt too, just to stand on the hardwood floor. So I laid in bed, tears running down my cheeks as I tried to rub the pain away.

Eventually, I would hobble across to the bathroom and down to the kitchen, where I sought comfort from my coffee pot and sat, now wide awake, at my breakfast room table. What now? I thought. What can I do of any value at this time of the morning, without waking up anyone else in the house?

With limited energy – I was fully awake but still tired – and still aching in my joints, I wasn’t ready to hit the ground running but felt restless and frustrated. I can’t just sit here! I thought. And then I looked across the room, and saw it: the book I had been saying I would read every day, if only I could find the time. Well, now I had the time, and I was full out of excuses. The Word of God – the Bible – called to me, like a friend wanting to share her intimate secrets. She was there. Would I accept her invitation?

It’s been almost two years since I began waking up early due to RA. Back then, it was disease that woke me up. Today, it’s desire. Desire to spend time with the One who loves me most. Desire to spend time in His Word. For I have found that the Scriptures are true: His mercies are new every morning. It is that time that gives me strength for today, hope for better tomorrows, and joy for the journey. I have learned to take the time I need for my hands and feet – and today, my knees and shoulders too – to “wake up” and feel better, and use it to my advantage. There is something about healing the soul that does something for the body too.

I will never be a morning person, as long as there are late nights to enjoy. But today, whatever time my mornings begin, I no longer look at them with dread. Yes, depending on the day, there may be pain. But there is also joy, and on that I can depend, for I know the One who will bring it and He never fails to deliver. It comes wrapped in a nice little package, like a gift I get to open every day, with a tag that reads Love. 

If you have RA, how do you handle your pain in the morning? Do you rely on warm heating pads or cool towels to soothe your joints? Where do you go to soothe your soul? 

Learning to Love My Mornings originally appeared on Spring Sight blog, by Linda W. Perkins. It is one of a series of posts specifically about Rheumatoid Arthritis, as part of #RABlog Week. 

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Healer of My Soul

“Heal me, LORD, and I will be healed; save me and I will be saved, for you are the one I praise.” – Jeremiah 17:14 (NIV)

It’s a beautiful day outside. The sunshine is filtering through my window, brightening up my breakfast room with its soft light; and if I open the kitchen door, I can feel a cool breeze dancing across my cheeks.

After a long, hot summer when even the well-watered plants on my back porch wilted under what seemed like never-ending scorching heat, I’m ready for days like this.

Well, kind of. Sorta. Ok, I’m ready for weather like this, but not days like this. Why? Because on this glorious sunshiny day, I’m stuck inside, on the couch, nestled up to a box of tissues, sucking on throat lozenges … sick.

Unlike some illnesses that come on suddenly, like a bomb has just dropped, I got fair warning on this one. It’s one of the mixed blessings and curses of having RA. The moment my immune system notices even the smallest change, it kicks into overdrive, draining me of all energy and delivering a not-so-nice package of “malaise” onto my body’s proverbial doorstep. So while my upper respiratory infection didn’t fully express itself until Saturday, I was well into feeling cruddy at least a day or two before. So when I go to the doctor today, I will be able to say in all truthfulness, that I have been “sick” for about five days now.

The problem with upper respiratory infections – aka “colds” – is that there really is no “cure” for them. Throat lozenges, decongestants, antihistamines and cough syrup are great for symptom relief, but that’s about it.

My outer symptoms may go away, but the disease will still be lurking under the surface. 

Even antibiotics, while curing subsequent bacterial infections, are useless against the original virus that caused the illness to begin with. It just has to run its course. So today, even though a very competent doctor will examine me and will no doubt make me feel better with the medicines she prescribes, she will not be able to actually heal me.

I find it interesting that in the Bible, when Jeremiah is crying out to the Lord, he says, “Oh Lord, if you heal me, I will truly be healed…” (Jer. 17:14a NLT). The same verse in another translation reads, “You alone can heal me…” Clearly, Jeremiah knows something we often forget: Complete healing comes only from the Lord.

Medicine may or may not heal our bodies, but we are never truly healed until God has healed our souls.

Having an incurable illness – whether it’s as minor as a cold or as serious as an autoimmune disease like RA – can be both miserable and frustrating. No one likes to be told there’s no way to be made completely well.

But just because there’s no cure doesn’t mean there’s no hope.

Just like I know that the bad cold I’m suffering from right now won’t last forever, the Bible is clear that one day, God will wipe all tears from our eyes and there will be no more death, suffering, crying, or pain. (Revelation 21:4 CEV) We have that as our promise, when we turn our lives over to Him.

Better yet, when we go to God, we know we can find comfort that transcends our bodily pain. Philippians 4:6-7 says when we stop worrying, and start praying, telling God our needs and trusting Him for His answers, then we will receive the peace that passes all understanding. And we do not need to wait until some undefined time in the future to receive it. It is available to us today.

Even in the midst of physical pain or discomfort, we can find healing for our souls. And then, only then, will we find the ability to praise Him in all circumstances.

It is a beautiful day outside. The sunshine is filtering through my window, brightening up my breakfast room with its soft light; and even while sitting on my couch, nestled up to my box of tissues, I can feel the soft touch of the Holy Spirit dancing across my heart, filling me with peace and joy. My body may be sick, but it is well with my soul.

How do you feel today? Is your body sick or well? How is your soul? May you find true healing in the Lord.

Click here to listen to John Michael Talbot’s song “Healer of My Soul.” 

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We Got This!

“I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me.” – Philippians 4:13

It was late. I was tired. She was angry. And suddenly, I was so very grateful we had opted for a savings account over a piggy bank.

What seemed to be a very simple problem, with a very easy answer, was quickly blowing up into a volcano of erupting emotions.

No, she was NOT going to listen to the radio station known for playing raunchy songs with sexually explicit lyrics. Not at 11 years old. And absolutely not in my house. I didn’t care if it played her favorite “Whip and Nay Nay” dance tune. I would find it on another station or buy it for her on iTunes. But her radio station of choice was not going to be the one she’d be listening to it on.

We had gone through this a few days before. After the last fight, I just grabbed the clock radio, pulling the plug from the wall, and took it back to my room, which is where it had originated from anyway.

I thought I had found the solution. A new (well, reclaimed from the guest room) clock radio, with a better tuning dial that clearly showed which station it was set on. That would kill the argument of, “Well, I’m not even sure if it is on that station!”

Nice thought, but it wasn’t working. Tonight the “discussion” had taken a nosedive from “Mom, stop being so old fashioned!” to her defiantly telling me she would just buy another clock radio herself, if I took this one away.

It was in that instant that I was so very, very glad all of my daughter’s money was locked up safe in the bank, and not in her little hands. She might be able to feel defiant, but she couldn’t actually act on it.

I would love to tell this story just from a parent’s point of view, but I can’t. After all, how similar are we to adolescents in our relationship with God? How many times does He try and tell us, from that small whisper in our ear to what feels like being beaten over the head with a stick, “Stop it! That isn’t good for you!” And yet, we continue to do what’s bad for us anyway. Just as my daughter only knows the radio station plays the “Whip and Nay Nay” song, and is largely unaware of the other really bad content on it, we rush headlong into situations in our own lives, blind to the unseen dangers that God is trying to protect us from.

We need to learn to trust Him who sees the bigger picture.

Thankfully, God sometimes does the choosing for us. He holds onto our desires, like money in the bank, until we are ready to use them wisely. The door closes to a job opportunity we wanted … opening the door for the better one around the corner. A relationship breaks up before the wedding … only to be saved a long life of painful strife with the “wrong one.”

Other times, we are left to our own devices. It is there that the well-known saying “Pride comes before a fall” (Proverbs 16:18) rings true. Just like an 11-year-old, we scream and cry, “But everyone is doing it!” and “God, I know what I’m doing!” And just like the prodigal son, when our emotional piggy bank is empty, we find out the hard way that God’s instructions really were meant for our good, and come crawling back to Him on our knees. We find ourselves once again thankful for His grace, mercy and love; thankful for a Parent who will not only take us back into His shelter, without saying “I told you so,” but who will continue to teach us the right way in which to go.

So which way do we go when our children want to go astray? We know the mistakes we’ve made and we know there’s nothing we wouldn’t do to try and keep our kids from experiencing the same pain. Sometimes, in our efforts, in our struggles – as we go toe-to-toe – it’s easy to feel alone. Answers don’t come easily, and sometimes it feels like there’s no one there to back you up. Fortunately, that’s not the case.

Just as our Father guides us as children, He is also there to guide us as parents.

Eight years of single parenting, between my divorce and my current marriage, tells me I can’t do this parenting thing alone. Yes, you heard right. I can’t do it alone. I couldn’t do it then, and I can’t do it now. With or without a spouse, my only hope is in my Heavenly Father. And my only strength is in Christ Jesus.

You see, the Bible says I can do all things through Christ Jesus. Not a few things. Not most things. All things. And yet, in John 15:5, it also says I can do nothing without Him. So, whether it’s in parenting or any other aspect of my life, my ability to succeed is based on one thing alone: complete dependence upon Him.

James 4:2 says, “You do not have because you do not ask.” Are you asking for God’s wisdom? His patience? His love and grace? My experience in life says I must first ask and receive it for myself, before I can give it away. If I want to guide my child into all truth and righteousness, I must find it first. And it’s there, in His Word, and in relationship with Him.

I’m not sure what parenting challenge I will face tonight. But whatever it is, I can go into it confidently, with God leading the way, knowing “We got this!”

What life challenges – parenting or otherwise – are you facing today? Are you trying to tough it out alone or will you let God be your guide? He is with you, wherever you go!

We Got This! originally appeared on Spring Sight blog, by Linda W. Perkins.  Get even more encouragement by following me on Facebook, Pinterest, and Twitter.

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